Consider this situation. You were walking at the university hallway, or maybe at the shopping mall. Then there was a person, walking from the opposite direction, smiling when passing by you. You didn't really remember that person, but you kinda know that person, so you were not sure whether that person was smiling at you or at another person at your back, or the person besides you. So you only have two options:
1) You can either smile back (and bear the embarassment if the person was actually not smiling at you)
or
2) you pretended not to see the person (which may make that person felt embarassed if that person was actually smiling at you).
Or let you put yourself in the shoes of the one doing the greeting. You were walking in a crowd, and the person walking from the opposite direction was someone that you know, but that person is someone whom you are not really close with, so you just offer a smile at that person. The person, since he or she was not close to you, was quite unsure whether you were smiling at him/her or at other people in the crowd. After a few minutes observing your eye-contact, then the person was sure that you were actually smiling at him/her and was confident enough to smile back at you. Though the greeting was mutual, it kinda made you feel hmmph, uncomfortable since the greeting process was supposed to be casual and not that complicated.
So these are the examples of dilemmas in greeting someone, or when you were being greeted by someone. Well, I experienced a lot of these situations, when I walked down the lecture hall foyer, or at the library foyer, or any parts in the university. Sometimes, I even do not dare to look up while walking in the university area to escape from these dilemmas. I do not want to be the person whom people thought as snob for failing to recognize people while walking along the hallway, nor do I wanted to bear the embarassment due to the mistake of smiling at the wrong person. And yeah, talking about smiling at the wrong person, I just did it this afternoon, when I was walking at the hallway of Dewan Kuliah U. It was embarassing, but thank God, the person I mistakenly smiled to was a good sport cause she replied my smile.. Lol..
So, after a doing a few thinking, I discovered there's ways to lessen this dilemma. I mean, you can greet a person and make that person sure that you are greeting him or her by:
1) Calling out his or her name. Just saying 'Hi' is not enough. You should say it complete with the receiver's name, such as "Hi Jane" or "Hi Jack". By identifying the person that you greet, especially the person who is not that close to you, you will make that person sure that you are actually greeting him or her and not someone else. Then, you will save the embarassment of not getting a reply.
2) If you don't really remember the name of the person that you wanted to greet, say "HI" along with your eye-contact, and wave at the person's direction. If the person still didn't know that you are greeting him/her, you should consider finding out his or her birthday's date and bought just what he/she needs - a pair of brand new spectacles. If the person that you greeted happened to stop and tried to have a chat with you but that time you still had no idea what his/her name is, then you better take out your handphone, asking for the person's number and asked him or her to spell out her name.
So, heheh, just two tips for the one doing the greeting. For the one being greeted, hmmph, this is quite a difficult position actually. If you knew the person who kinda smiled at you, instead of anticipating on being greeted, how bout you being the one greeting him/her first? For example, a person whom you know as A, kinda look your way and was kinda smiling, instead of waitingto be greeted, be the first to greet. Isn't it simple?
So these are the ways that I can think of for now. If any of you who happen to read this blog have some other ideas to share on how to not be in this greeting dilemma, feel free to share your thoughts and ideas - you may have the better solution to this dilemma.
PS: Do try this when you're in the public area. XD
1) You can either smile back (and bear the embarassment if the person was actually not smiling at you)
or
2) you pretended not to see the person (which may make that person felt embarassed if that person was actually smiling at you).
Or let you put yourself in the shoes of the one doing the greeting. You were walking in a crowd, and the person walking from the opposite direction was someone that you know, but that person is someone whom you are not really close with, so you just offer a smile at that person. The person, since he or she was not close to you, was quite unsure whether you were smiling at him/her or at other people in the crowd. After a few minutes observing your eye-contact, then the person was sure that you were actually smiling at him/her and was confident enough to smile back at you. Though the greeting was mutual, it kinda made you feel hmmph, uncomfortable since the greeting process was supposed to be casual and not that complicated.
So these are the examples of dilemmas in greeting someone, or when you were being greeted by someone. Well, I experienced a lot of these situations, when I walked down the lecture hall foyer, or at the library foyer, or any parts in the university. Sometimes, I even do not dare to look up while walking in the university area to escape from these dilemmas. I do not want to be the person whom people thought as snob for failing to recognize people while walking along the hallway, nor do I wanted to bear the embarassment due to the mistake of smiling at the wrong person. And yeah, talking about smiling at the wrong person, I just did it this afternoon, when I was walking at the hallway of Dewan Kuliah U. It was embarassing, but thank God, the person I mistakenly smiled to was a good sport cause she replied my smile.. Lol..
So, after a doing a few thinking, I discovered there's ways to lessen this dilemma. I mean, you can greet a person and make that person sure that you are greeting him or her by:
1) Calling out his or her name. Just saying 'Hi' is not enough. You should say it complete with the receiver's name, such as "Hi Jane" or "Hi Jack". By identifying the person that you greet, especially the person who is not that close to you, you will make that person sure that you are actually greeting him or her and not someone else. Then, you will save the embarassment of not getting a reply.
2) If you don't really remember the name of the person that you wanted to greet, say "HI" along with your eye-contact, and wave at the person's direction. If the person still didn't know that you are greeting him/her, you should consider finding out his or her birthday's date and bought just what he/she needs - a pair of brand new spectacles. If the person that you greeted happened to stop and tried to have a chat with you but that time you still had no idea what his/her name is, then you better take out your handphone, asking for the person's number and asked him or her to spell out her name.
So, heheh, just two tips for the one doing the greeting. For the one being greeted, hmmph, this is quite a difficult position actually. If you knew the person who kinda smiled at you, instead of anticipating on being greeted, how bout you being the one greeting him/her first? For example, a person whom you know as A, kinda look your way and was kinda smiling, instead of waitingto be greeted, be the first to greet. Isn't it simple?
So these are the ways that I can think of for now. If any of you who happen to read this blog have some other ideas to share on how to not be in this greeting dilemma, feel free to share your thoughts and ideas - you may have the better solution to this dilemma.
PS: Do try this when you're in the public area. XD
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